I am a 43 year old Air Force Veteran and in 1998 I met who appeared to be a wonderful woman in Strasburg Colorado. Debbora Lee Holdrum has four sons from a previous marriage. Although Ms Holdrums family tried to warn me about her controlling and abusive ways, I didnt listen. We married in Deer Trail Colorado in 2000.
Despite the fact that I was always employed and providing for the family, Debbora demanded that we move frequently. The boys attended schools in three states from 1998 until 2003. In 2001 we were living in Montgomery County New York. Wihtout notice Debbora dumped the boys on her ex in laws Harold and Evie Burnett and left NY State. Montgomery County New York immediately filed for support against me. Despite my appeals that I was neither the biological nor adoptive parent, the Montgomery County Family Court issued a child support order against me. I continued to appeal the order and in October 2003 Ms Holdrum and I divorced on my petition due to her adultery and abuse. Soon after the divorce Ms Holdrum issued a statement in writing indicating that she had lied to me and that ours was not a true marriage. In effect she had conned me. I submitted this statement to the Montgomery County Family Court. This did not change the status of the order.
Soon after the divorce I relocated to Tennessee and reconciled with my first wife and our two children whom I had always supported. In Sept 2005 I was working full time and supporting my family when Montgomery County attached my wages. This obviously hindered my ability to support my physically disabled wife and our two children. In early 2005 Montgomery County New York intercepted my federal tax refund. This action was taken despite the fact that I was paying the support. The refund exceeded the total amount due and I request that NY just take their money and send me the excess. I was told that federal law required them to hold the refund for six months before doing anything with it. In essence they had the money but still continued to attach my wages. In August 2005 I was notified that the account was paid in full. Still though no excess refund would be sent until the close of the six months. I was notified in writing that the refund would be returned to me 22 December 2005. This date came and went. I contacted the child support enforcement office in Montgomery Count New York and was greeted with rude comments. I contacted the Office Of The Governor. I never received a response.
On 3 Jaunary 2006 I received a partial refund of the income tax money. NY claims they had taken a portion of the refund in August to satisfy the account. Despite this they held the refund for five additional months. During the time they had the refund, my father passed away. Due to the financial hardship NY created I was unable to visit my father before he passed away or attend the funeral.
Children are a true gift from GOD. I have always supported my biological children. To require me or any person to support children to whom they have no relation is morally and ethically wrong.